Indulge 8 (On our 20s)
Sometimes I wish a rich billionaire sugar daddy can just find me, marry me and then I divorce him, charge him to court for lack of love and take 20% of his wealth?!?!?!?!
Nothing beats having your OWN money though. Nothing at all.
I was on TikTok the other day when I came across a video. The creator was excited about how rich she became after she dropped her 9-5 job and became a full time entrepreneur and now she’s rich af. I went over to the comment section and the first comment I saw said “Man, I don’t want to work at all. I just want to be rich without working” And I felt it deep in my soul because SAME bro, SAME!!!!!!!
On our 20s
Do you know how tiring it is to wake up every morning and realize that your future is in your hands? Like what is your reason for being on earth? To decide and work for your future?!?!?!
Lately, I have been reminiscing about my childhood and how I would always judge some aunties for being the way they are and acting like they were disgusted with life. I never understood them until I got older and realized why they were that way and why they made some weird decisions about life. Life is not a bed of roses like I always thought. I got older and wanted to go back to being younger because this was not how I envisioned my life when I was little.
Unlike some girls who had a goal of setting their life up at age 20 and getting married at age 23, mine was the total opposite. I had no idea what I would be doing at that age. All I knew was I would not be a little girl anymore, and I will be able to live life the way I pleased. Also, I will be able to make my own decisions without my mum or brother getting involved. However, I am older now, and I find myself running to them for their opinions on personal issues. Definitely not what I planned when I was little.
Life might not hit you at age 18 or even 19, sometimes not even 20. At that age, all you desire and admire is the butterfly running in your tummy while you lust after your crush standing under a mango tree talking to girls that simp over him (Mind you, he might end up looking ugly to you when you become an adult ADULT).
Life probably hits you when you are 24 or 25 and done with school. At that point, you realize that you are all on your own, and this is where your life starts.
This is where it all begins.
The sensible decisions you make might turn out foolish after a while.
The crying in your pillow all to yourself at night.
The blankness of your mind while eating or watching a movie.
The realization that this is now your life, and you have to take it by the hand to lead it to where you want it to go.
I keep telling myself that there are a lot of lucky people who know what they want for their life from the start. They have a plan for the future and how to go about achieving it. Then there are people like us who have no idea what we want to make out of life. What is my purpose on earth? What do I want to do in the future? The fact remains that I want to have lots of money, but how do I go about it? Do I love my current job, or am I just trying to survive?
It is all messed up. Age 23-30 is a very critical age for everyone who has lost their way or has no idea where to go from here. It can be challenging, and like someone on Twitter said - “As demanding and tempting as this age group can be, do not give in to peer pressure. Do not give up on your dreams. Keep going and never settle for less. Hard work is tough, but it works out in the end.” He is right. The age syndrome is so tempting. I have had lots of conversations with my girls where they have cried and said to themselves that they want to give up. I have had these therapeutic sessions where I lock myself up and let it all out because I have no idea what right path to take. It all sucks.
I have this to say to you all; life is not an easy road. I know everyone knows this, but we’re not supposed to have it all or have it easy. Does it suck? Hell yes!
Stop putting too much pressure on yourself. Take the goals you’ve set for yourself to achieve in a week/month/year away. Take them all away. It is part of what is making you depressed.
When it’s getting too hard, take a deep breath, watch a movie or take a walk or eat or CRY. Do something or anything to take your mind off your issues. For as long as you can until you feel better, but make sure to come back to it and finish off only when you’re okay and ready.
Life is short. Why should you waste your time thinking about what you have no control over? Do the things you can do and leave time/nature to take care of the rest.
It’s okay to make bad decisions. We’re human but don’t let it scar you for too long.
It’s okay to be embarrassed about some issues but learn to take your embarrassment as growth.
Finally, don’t give up on your dreams. Never settle for less! Never! Keep going, no matter how scary the road is.
Take the smart way instead of the rough way. Choose to WORK SMART rather than working hard. We now live in a world where technology has made everything easy for everyone.
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